When separation is mentioned, most people view it as a negative word. In this piece, we are going to look at the positive signs during separation. No marriage is free from problems, there is no perfect marriage. You don’t get to live a life where you don’t fight or have arguments just because you are married. Most times, a breakup starts with separation and ends with divorce but other times, it starts with separation and you can sort out your issues and end up back together.
One of the positive signs during separation is when your partner still keeps in touch with your family. It shows he still cares about you.
30 Positive signs during a separation or positive signs of reunion:
1. You’re still communicating during the separation:
A bad sign during separation is when both couples are not in contact with each other at all, but if the couples still leave the window of communication open, it means that there is a chance that the couple might reunite.
2. You know the problem and you are working towards fixing it:
People always have reasons for breaking up. The issues might be deep and hidden, but during separation, if the couple decided to identify the root cause of their separation and work towards fixing it, this is a positive sign that they might be room for reconciliation.
3. You and your partner still follow each other on social media:
When most couples decide to separate or even before then, they might decide to unfollow each other on social media, but if you and your partner are still actively following and engaging each other on social media, it means that you guys still care about each other and you may still be able to navigate your way back to each other.
4. You still talk about the good times you share:
A positive sign during a separation is when the couple still reminisces on the good time they shared. If a lot of good memories begin to surface during separation, there is still hope yet.
5. You guys still miss each other:
During separation, if you and your partner start to miss each other, then there is still hope for the both of you. Staying apart might have had a good effect on both of you and you guys with separation now appreciate each other more.
6. You have dealt with the unfulfilled expectations:
Most times, due to anger during the separation, couples do not see the problem. They do not see the fact that their marriage came apart from the foundation, and most times, your issues come from unrealistic expectations you had before your marriage. The only way you can resolve this issue is to identify the problem and come to a compromise about the issue.
7. Your partner still wants your support:
One of the positive signs during separation is when the couple still feels the need to support each other when needed, if you both still consider each other as friends and still want to support each other, it means there is hope for reconciliation.
8. He is jealous:
Another positive sign is when your partner is jealous when he sees other men hanging around you, or he feels you are dating someone new. He still has feelings for you and still considers you his wife. This means you guys might still get back together.
9. You still spend a lot of time together:
When you guys are separated, it means you both decided to take time apart to examine where your relationship is headed, but if during this separation you both still spend a lot of time together and can’t bear to be apart, it means that you guys might still come back together.
10. You notice positive changes:
If during separation you notice positive changes in your spouse, it means that you guys may still find your way back to each other, especially when these changes have to do with the issues that caused the separation in the first place.
11. He is always looking for excuses to see you:
When you guys are separated but now it seems as if you talk to each other more and see each other more than when you were together, it is a positive sign that you may get back together still.
12. He still asks your friends and family about you:
If your spouse is still curious about your well-being and he still asks friends and family about how you are faring and if you need anything, it is a positive sign that he still loves you and wants to get back.
13. He is flirting with you:
When your partner is still flirting with you during separation, it is a positive sign that he wants to resolve the issues you guys are having. He is always smiling around you and he tries to maintain eye contact with you, it means he still wants things to work.
14. He is still keeping in touch with your family:
Another sign that your partner wants you and does not want a divorce is when he still keeps in contact with your family, his keeping in touch with your family means that he still loves you and those connected to you.
15. You share your feelings:
Another positive sign that you both can still get together during separation is that you guys still share and talk about your feelings, and you guys are still able to communicate about how you feel about each other.
16. You have forgiven each other:
Another positive sign you guys can get back together after a separation is that you guys have been able to forgive each other and let go of the hurt you hold inside. When you can do this, you might still find your way back to each other.
17. You healed personally:
Another sign that you can get back to your spouse during separation is healing personally, and then you can find yourself again.
18. You have accepted your faults:
When you can accept your fault and realize that your partner is not perfect and he can make a mistake, then there is still hope that you guys can come together, you need to accept each other and just appreciate your struggles.
19. Take responsibility:
Another positive sign that you both can still come back is when you are both able to accept responsibility for your problems and stop shifting the blame to each other.
20. You discuss your wants:
Another sign that you might still get back to each other yet is when you can discuss your needs and wants with your partner. You tell him what you feel was lacking in the relationship and he can reciprocate too.
21. You guys try counseling:
Another positive sign that you guys may come back together is when your partner is willing to try counseling as a last-ditch attempt to save your marriage.
22. You still talk about the future:
When you guys are separated, it means there might be no future for both of you anymore, but when he still talks to you about the future you both can have, it means that he still sees that future with you.
23. You guys are still attracted to each other:
Most times before the separation, attraction is already out of the equation, but when you guys still feel massive attraction to each other, you might still make your marriage work.
24. He still trusts you:
Another positive sign that your marriage might still work is when your partner still trusts you and he tells you all his secrets and issues that are important to him.
25. You discuss boundaries:
Another sign that your relationship might still work out is when you guys set boundaries when it comes to your needs and wants.
26. Express gratitude:
Another sign he wants to come back to you during separation is that he expresses his gratitude and he is always telling you how thankful he is that you came into his life.
27. You look ahead:
Another sign that you guys may still get back together is when your spouse suggests a new way you guys can move past the hurt and heartbreak.
28. Your separation is still new:
Another sign that you guys may still get back together is when your separation is still fresh, you still have a chance to work things out.
29. You both are not seeing other people:
Another way to know that your relationship might still work out during separation is that you guys are not seeing others, you both choose to remain faithful to each other.
30. No resentment:
When you and your partner do not resent each other, it means that there is still hope that you guys still come back together.
How do I stay strong during separation?
You need to realize that separation is not divorce and there is still a chance of getting back together. But when you guys are separated, one way you can stay strong is by grieving and letting it all out. You can also try new hobbies and adventures you have always wanted to do. Also, try not to make any drastic or new changes that you might come to regret. Make plans for the new and exciting futures ahead of you.
How long does an average separation last?
How long an average separation lasts depends on you and your spouse, it depends on how long you guys can take to sort out your issues or how long the divorce proceedings last.
What should you not do during the separation?
During your separation, you should not go about telling your friends and family you are getting a divorce, because once you tell everyone about your issues, they may have different opinions and it may be difficult for you guys to come back together. Immediately after separation, try not to get into a relationship immediately, don’t be in a hurry to sign the divorce paper, and give yourself time to think if it is what you want to do.
Do couples get back together after separation?
Yes, most couples find their way back to each other during separation, but not all separation leads to reconciliation. Most times, if couples can resolve their issues before they end up in front of a judge, they may get back together.
Can separation make a marriage stronger?
Yes, separation can strengthen your marriage if the separation is done for the right reasons and you can resolve the issues. Also, separation can help you realize what you have and the fear of losing it can help you fight harder for your marriage.
What does the stat man say about the re-union?
According to statistics, 10% to 20% of separated couples reunite and have a fulfilling relationship.
Now you have seen the sign that your separation may not end in divorce, so it is up to you to know what next to do. You have to think long and hard if you want the divorce or you want the reconciliation and then, you have to be willing to fight to save your marriage.